Having three little ones makes it a little hard to go out for date nights. Honestly, I don’t think my husband and I have been out on a date in over a year. My son was still very tiny when we went to see War Room by ourselves. He’s now 13 months old. The great thing is we learned how to be creative to have “our time.”
Dinner and a Movie
This is our favorite at home date night. If we know that we are doing date night on a specific evening, our dinner routine becomes different. I will feed the kids, but my husband and I do not eat a full meal. Once the kids go to sleep, that becomes our dinner time. We sometimes dim the lights or set out candles, and eat together. Sometimes, it is pizza, and we eat while we watch a movie. If we do a table dinner, once we are done then we get comfy on the couch and look at a movie on Netflix.
Coffee & Chat
There are nights we both are so exhausted but have so much to talk about. We make a night like that a date night. I put on coffee and once the kids are asleep, we sit on the couch and talk. It is so relaxing. It feels like being in a café with a best friend and catching up. We use those times also to talk about family affairs and goals. It’s a wonderful way to end a day that could have started out stressful.
I know what you’re thinking…how can talking about the Bible and/or praying be considered a date night? Well, for us….it easily can be a date night. God is our life and knowing more about Him and His ways is a great priority in our lives. There are nights that we just talk about what God may have laid on our hearts throughout the day. Other times, my husband will tell me something in the Bible that really stood out to him. I use moments like that to ask questions that may be on my mind from something I read. It is a beautiful bond that we have formed and a beautiful way to spend time together.
Now, during “date nights” plenty of times one or more of our kids wake up, and I have to go back in the room to put them back to sleep. It doesn’t bother us because we know they are little, and it comes with the territory. We appreciate any time we get and take advantage of the time we have alone together. It has made us appreciate each other more, and we learned how to be creative together. Date nights at home means sometimes being spontaneous and having a date unplanned….. and for me it can’t get better than that! I love spontaneous!
Make sure to take out time alone with your spouse as it is vital for a healthy relationship. Having dates at home is not only convenient when you can’t get out, but also affordable…..hey, it can even be more fun! So, go ahead and let your creative juices flowing and start dating at home.
With Much Love,
Maribel is a wife to Chris and mom to 3 littles, Aby, Lilly, and Azariah. She is also due with their 4th child in August. Maribel is a Doula in training and a Blogger about motherhood and home life. In her down time, she loves to spend time with family, laugh, go to church, and organize. She has a passion for all things organization and loves organanizational accessories.
Maribel started Handmaiden Mommy to share her experiences and journey in motherhood and to be an encouragement to other moms out there who are in the same season of life or just starting.
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