I’ve mentioned hearing this before, most recently from my pastor, Woody Torrence, but I think it is worth saying again.
“You cannot give away what you do not have.”
Really we could apply this to any situation in our lives. Finances, kindness, a meal, love.
I know I am loved, however, I sometimes forget just how much, the price that was paid. And I don’ want to forget. Nor do I want my kids to forget. So I am diving into God’s word to learn more about His love, to get it down deep in my heart, to renew my mind even more, so that I can walk through life living loved, and pass this same mindset and way of living on to my own kids.
There are a few ways that we do this in our home, and I want to share them with you here to give you the tools you may need to do the same with your family.
- Tell them about God’s love. There are a multitude of ways to do this. One way is to read bible story books with them when they’re very young, transitioning to the Holy Bible when they are a bit older. Talk about times when God came through for you with your finances, physical healing, calming emotional turmoil. Recall out loud moments when you truly felt God’s presence in your life. Savor out loud the grace He bestows on each. one. of. us.
- Tell them about your love for God. Why do you love Him? The bible tells us we love Him because He first loved us. Has He poured out blessings on you, is He good, has He carried you when you could not drag yourself one step further? Though He does all of these things because He loves us, they are also the cause of a greater love in us for Him when we recognize Him as the source.
- Tell them about your love for their earthly father (or mother). Speaking loving words about their other parent not only helps our children to feel secure in your relationship with one another, it helps them to feel secure in their relationship with you both together. Regale them with stories of fluttering hearts and sweaty palms from the early years, as well as the daily choices you make to love one another despite hurts, hurdles, and heartache.
- Tell them about your love for them. Children need to hear you say the words ‘I love you’. Even though we may think it is a given, because they are our children, they do not. I know we have heard more than once from one child in particular “you have to love me”, but we always respond with “we get to love you”. Let your kids know that you love them because they are a gift and you count it a privilege.
- Let them see you live out your love. Living out your love for God, your spouse, and your kids will speak louder to your children than anything you could ever say to them. Yes, we need to say the words. But living it, that is truth, that is authenticity. Your words have meaning when they are backed up with action.
Think it. Speak it. Live it.
For your children.
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