As I have been going through this series, digging in to God’s word to learn more about what He has to say about love, one area where He is nudging me to take a closer look is in my marriage.
There are two passages of scripture I feel compelled to look at regarding love and marriage.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 tells us what God says love is.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
And Ephesians 5:20-33 which tells us what God expects in a marriage relationship. Verse 20 summarizes it all right at the beginning with
“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”
I encourage you to read the entire passage, as it goes into detail about what this kind of submission looks like. And though Paul addresses wives and husbands specifically, we can take any of these commands and apply them to our spouse in the way that we love them.
Husbands are to love their wives as they love themselves. Shouldn’t we as wives do the same? We must first love ourselves. And once we understand the depth of Christ’s love for us, then we will be more readily able to do this, causing us to live our lives loved in our marriages.
In order to truly communicate to you what it looks like to live loved in a marriage relationship, and to be sure that I understand it myself in my own marriage, I have asked my husband to help me understand what it looks like for me to live loved in our relationship.
Here is what we came up with together.
- Believe him when he says he loves you.
- Say thank you when he says you’re beautiful.
- Trust that he wants you for you when he desires intimacy.
- Think of ways to show him he is loved.
- See the good in him.
- Pursue a relationship with him; spiritual, emotional, physical.
- Remember that Jesus loved you so much that He laid down His life for you.
You are loved.
Is there anything you or your husband would add to this list? A simple (or maybe complicated) act of love that is a product of your love for him? Please share it in the comments!
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